You know porn is a bad for you when...
This week in the New Yorker magazine, Naomi Wolfe vindicates her feminist anti-pornography counterpart Andrea Dworkin. In a stunning a admission for the queen of American sexualization, Wolf declares:
As she [Dvorkin] foretold, pornography did breach the dike that separated a marginal, adult, private pursuit from the mainstream public arena. The whole world, post-Internet, did become pornographized. Young men and women are indeed being taught what sex is, how it looks, what its etiquette and expectations are, by pornographic training—and this is having a huge effect on how they interact.
As always, Wolf is a bit more nuanced in her denunciation of pornography but we welcome her to the fight. Like Professor Jensen, Wolf asserts that Pornogrpahy strips men of their masculinity.
Keeping porn off the cellphoneLast week
AT&T launched parental controls for cell phones. While it might seem a silly and pithy thing consider this man
busted after he list his PDA which contained over 500 child pornography images. The article points out that the software is not full proof but it does provide some decent controls for concerned parents.
HBO welcomes the Full Monty

We're not talking about Monty Python either. In a
first for primetime paid cable, HBO is launching a new series called "Tell Me You Love Me" depicting the sex life of several couples and featuring full frontal male nudity. I'm sure the polling indicates some demand for this? One media pundit notes that there has been nothing like this before, not even on HBO.
50 Cents, Model Father?
In a revealing interview with an Aussie magazine,
50 Cents, the renown rap artist, had this to say about his son, his lyrics and pornography:
His son now attends a private school. Is he a strict father? "You know, his mom runs his life right now. But I'll allow him to listen to my music because he knows it is just entertainment. He knows what the difference between me and what is being said on my records is. If you were worried about my lyrics, you should also be worried about what your kid's watching on television. Same with magazines. I look in your magazines and I see women topless and it's great. But in the States, they consider it soft pornography. They have a whole different vibe over there. The Bible belt."
His attitude is not at all surprising considering the
content of his last hit. Personally, I like topless cars.
"He hasn't been able to really answer that"The above quote is from the
lawyer of a man who took explicit picture of his own pre-teen daughter trying to answer the question "why" he did it. That seems to be the answer of many men who have been addicted to pornography. Of course,
Dr. Reisman can tell you exactly why this response is so frequently cited by porn addicts.
A bad, bad combination
At the Lighted Candle Society we often compare the addiction of pornography to drug addiction or alcohol abuse.
The sad combination of these three led to the violent and terrible rape and murder of a nursing student in Canada last year. It appears that the murderer was drunk, high on marijuana and "consult[ed] the Internet for violent pornography" at the time of the offence. I should note that not all porn addicts are rapists but almost all rapists are porn addicts.
The combination of even two of these elements is quite enough. We would argue that porn alone
can do you in.
When all else fails?
We've mentioned before the unique approaches that churches are employing to help people with porn addiction. This
Decatur, IL church uses a slightly suggestive billboard and registered the domain: mybestsexlife.com" to bring awareness to the issue. A good debate can be had pro- and con- this approach but it certainly indicates that what has gone before hasn't worked. Which is why the Lighted Candle Society is business.
The Top Ten List
I love making top ten lists...
but this is one I plan to avoid. Jon Schillaci is the 488th person to join the FBI's top ten most wanted list. This is one of the first wanted persons whose crime is pedophilia. Read about this case here and if you see this man get him locked up now!
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